The one simple yet hard and dark goofy light at the end of every relationship which took the wrong turn. I’m sure we are not talking about why the relationship ended, but what to do next.
I have to admit that moving on was very hard for me especially when I was deeply……..okay it was hard. Moving on can be hard for any reason. It may sound lame or stupid, but it’s right for you if it’s right to you. Why? Because there are so many things reminding you again and again about that one person you are trying to forget.
- Other happy/suffering couples
Did he/she just appeared in your mind for each points I mention up there. Lol. You had his/her favourite food atleast? Now this is going to be fun. 🙂
But dwelling in the past with someone whom you know you can’t be in the present or future, is no fun of any kind. If you notice, for every single incident in your daily life, you would have that person taking place the scenario all over again in your mind. For instance when you see a girl smiling to her boyfriend/husband, your mind immediately reconstruct this image with you and him/her in it.
It’s tiring. 😦
Now what do we do and how do we move on?
Moving on is hard (again). To take someone you love or atleast loved out of your mind is hard. Extremely hard. But, yeah there’s a but, and I’m sure it’s a happy but.
Instead of taking someone you love out of you mind, why not put someone you love in it? Ah ha, I know what you are thinking right now. You can’t fall in love with another person when you have someone else in you. No. Yes.
Yes you can. You can love someone else even when you have your ex in you, if that “someone” is yourself. The norm of falling in love have become so lame I would say, till we forget to fall in love with ourselves.
Stop trying to take that person from the past tale out of your mind. It doesn’t work that way. Don’t tell yourself to stop thinking about him/her. Cause the more you try, the harder it becomes. Let that person be there. It doesn’t make sense when the person whom you love or once loved can’t rent a temporary space in your mind.
That’s how it is made easy. That’s how it’s suppose to be. Obsession took us all towards one person, neglecting ourselves. We always think of moving on, but never once we thought of moving in. Moving into ourselves. We often teach ourselves that we are in need of someone. We have the need for someone so much so we loose the need in us. The need for us.
This is where everything changes. To understand that life is more about you than it is about anyone else. To learn how to make you happy. To create a serene environment for your mind. To focus on youself. YOU.
“Take care of yourself before you take care of others”. -Old Chinese Proverb-
It’s not about being selfish, but to teach you how important you are to yourself. Go to the places you’ve always wanted to go. Do the things you’ve always wanted to do. Spend more time on yourself. Read and travel. Learn about yourself. Learn and grow. As you grow, I promise you will see that person walking out of your soul, effortlessly.
I’m not sure if what I’m about to say is good or bad, but to every person you love, you would have actually given a part of yourself. And that part never comes back to you even after the relationship ends. As you are moving in, your part in that person may shrink but never comes back to you completely. And same goes to you. You may have his/her tiny part in you, forever.
And that is love.
PS-Stop worrying about what’s going to happen next.